This question has bothered women since time began and it will continue to do so forever.
Trying to understand who and what you are and why you are here, is a never-ending physically and spiritually intertwined journey which can make you completely crazy at times. What is utterly astonishing about life and the way we evolve as we live our life, is that what was true is the morning of our lives is a lie in the afternoon of your lives. That is because when we eventually die, hopefully in our eighties or older, we should most definitely not be the person we were when in our teens. The older we get, the wiser and more aware we should become. We should have consciously evolved away from the darkness of the lower vibrations (anger, envy, greed, lust, hatred, vengeance etc.) to the light of the higher vibrations (love, kindness, empathy, healing, forgiveness etc.).